On the latest episode of ‘Bigg Boss 19’ Amaal Mallik lost his temper at co-contestant Farrhana Bhatt. The duo had a screaming match after Farrhana refused to deliver Neelam Giri’s family letter. The situation escalated when Amaal snatched Farrhana’s plate and made derogatory remarks about her and her mother.
Here is what happened.
On the occassion of Diwali, many in the 'Bigg Boss' house received letters from their family. Many contestants, including Pranit More, Mridul Tiwari, and Kunickaa Sadan were seen crying uncontrollably after receiving letters from their families.
However, Captain Farrhana Bhatt shredded Neelam Giri’s letter and did not give it to her. The task, which was called ‘The Chitthi Aayi Hai’ task, was not just about emotions but had a hidden twist.
According to The Times of India, the contestants had two options: either deliver the letter to its rightful owner and quit the captaincy race, or destroy it and stay in the competition.
Farrhana, chose to stay in the race and hence destroyed the letter.
While everyone in the house was agitated at her behaviour, Amaal Mallik took it too far.
During the argument he Amaal said, “Tu aur teri maa dono B-grade ho" (You and your mother are both B-grade), which drew gasps from other contestants and backlash on social media. While Amaal’s comment was a response to Farhana calling him “B-grade", he is facing criticism due to the inclusion of her mother.
After the incident, Farrhana shared a post on X that read, “Amaal, the confidence you can’t show in front of the men in the house somehow only comes out when it’s the women. How much of a man are you, really? Throwing food from someone’s plate isn’t drama it’s pure disrespect. No matter how intense the fight, that kind of behavior is cheap, shameful, and completely unacceptable.”
She further wrote, “You didn’t just cross a line you erased it. Commenting on Farhana’s parents, especially her mother, was beyond low. She was genuinely hurt imagine hearing such things from someone you once called a friend. As Farhana said, “That’s why I cried. I don’t even want my mom to come during family week and see people like this.”
The post ended with, “Her so-called friends have shown their true colors her enemies seem more dignified than them. Farhana handled it all with grace, and that’s what makes her unbreakable.”
Therapist Jyoti Das explains that such explosive behaviour often stems from “unprocessed emotions and poor social skills.” When conflicts escalate quickly, the brain’s fight-or-flight response takes over, overriding rational thought.
She explained, “Violence in any form, physical, emotional, psychological, is neither healthy nor is it any form of conflict resolution. The why is a difficult question to answer but very simply put we have culturally not put weight on processing and understanding feelings. We’re a community of survivors - we don’t have the time to learn emotion regulation, and therefore never teach our children and they never teach theirs and the cycle continues. With the lack of social skills like conflict management, emotional regulation and interpersonal empathy, people are left with a fight or flight stress response. They throw things, engage in violence and abuse, to be understood and complex emotions like shame, rage, pain, etc. be regulated.”
Amaal Mallik’s altercation with Farrhana Bhatt is just the latest reminder of how easily conflicts on Bigg Boss spiral into personal territory. Tell us, should reality shows push contestants towards healthier communication—or is chaos and conflict exactly what the audience is signing up for?
